Do I just have shitty people around me or is this just what guys deal with?
Those "two" possibilities might actually just be the same thing. This is what guys deal with BECAUSE people are shitty.
People generally don't going around looking to help others. People look for ways to make themselves feel better. People with a mantra of helping others may or may not be doing so, but they continue because it is helping them fill a hole in themselves.
I've never divorced, but I have had breakups, and I got over them by embracing the hobbies I had before (in my case, programming). That might not be a lot but it's a start.
Reminds me how Hank's dad in King of the Hill remarried one of Hank's kindergarten classmates.
Also why Roger Moore quit being Bond. "They kept hiring women to play opposite me young enough to be my granddaughter. Frankly, it was disgusting."
That said, you're both adults. As long as it doesn't feel awkward or controlly to either of you, give it a shot.